Yesterday my Gran, (I call her Nonna, She’s Italian) was not in a good way.
She is suffering from a UTI and between me, her neighbour and the Doctor we managed to make sure she was as comfortable as possible through what looked like an extraordinary amount of pain. She was put on anti-biotics and refused to get out of bed. I have never seen her in so much pain. She kept telling me it’s better that she dies right now. She was serious as well.
We talk about death often. She tells me she has had more than her fair share of life and is very ready to go. She has lived longer than any of her family.
I believe she is ready. She was ready the moment her only Daughter died. It’s those around her that find it difficult to let go. Especially me.
This morning the anti-biotics appear to have kicked in and as I prepare to head over I got this phone call from a neighbour.
You have no idea how happy this makes me feel.
I know it’s just delaying the inevitable but when my Gran does die I would like it to be without pain and quietly in the night.
I guess that’s the least we can all hope for.
Really glad your grans ok man 🙂
My mum was also ‘ready’ when her eldest Son, my brother died. I think as the children we never want to think about our loved ones dying in pain, we will do anything we can to avoid that scenario. I sometimes wish, strangely, that i could download all of my mothers memories onto a hard drive so i never loose them when she goes. But they are her’s – not mine. I have to treasure mine.. So please she is better mate…
Really happy that your Gran is feeling better today dude
It is hard, very hard. I know from my own experience and I don’t think you ever ‘let go’. My gran had cancer. She was in hospital for a couple of weeks before the end. She was ready as well. I think she had known for a long time. I think you get to a certain age or a certain time and you know.I remember my 18th birthday and getting £21, that was the tradition. When you turned 21 you got £21 from granny and I said as much, her response was she wasn’t going to be here and she didn’t want me to miss out. She was in her eighties. She had been around that long and I think looking back I just expected she would be around forever. In the end she stopped taking the morphine and the rest of the drugs that were in her words, prolonging the pain and the inevitable. I hope it was painless, I don’t know (and I’ve never asked) because the grand-kids weren’t allowed to be there. We weren’t allowed. I think she didn’t want our last memory to be of her in that bed. In away I’m glad. She had good life. I miss her.
Very pleased that your Nana is feeling a bit better.It’s heartening that she has people around to love and fuss over her. You’re doing all the right things and your worry is thoughtful and sincere. Mortality is certainly a hard topic to face up to. The passing away of loved ones is a thing that I put to back of my mind, but recent events are also making me think more.Thanks for sharing and all my best thoughts and wishes go in your direction.
*Hugs*
She knows that she is loved and you will be with her as much as you can x
I’m so glad ur Nana is feeling better. Send your Nana my love and best wishes. Nanas are the best.
Happy to know that your Gran is doing better. Thanks for sharing.
She’s beautiful. I was so sad to hear about the latest development. 🙁
Tutti vogliono mamma nonna. Sono molto felice di leggere e di sentire che ha battuto l’infezzione.